Let me ask this question. In your entire life, how often when you have expressed buying something has the seller made you jump through hoops to buy it? Kinda hard to think about right? And even if the seller did want to make you jump through a bunch of hoops how often did you go along with it? Probably not often. This is because there is a good bet that whatever you wanted to buy you could get it from another seller in no time. Yet with girls it amazes me what guys are willing to jump through just for the chance at dating them. It defies logic.
I want to mention, that I am not advocating that you don’t ever make a move. In fact I encourage you to make the first move for one big reason. Most guys won’t. Making the first move to get a date going is by far one of the most attractive things you can do because it shows the girl that you are willing to take a risk. That you have enough self-confidence to ask the question that most guys for some reason are scared to ask. That is not what I am referring to. What I am referring to is when you make the first move, express interest, and THEN she starts the process of making you jump through hoops. The moment she begins to do that, in my humble opinion that is the time to walk away and don’t even look back. I know it sounds harsh. It doesn’t matter. It’s the truth. A girl who really likes you and finds you attractive or of high value does not make you jump through hoops. If you are someone she really wants, she will break any rule she has to get with you.
In fact, this is true on a human level for both genders. We all have a base set of rules that we abide by for our own life. We make these rules for a variety of reasons, i.e security, efficiency, money, etc… That said there will be times where you will break your rules or at the very least bend them. You have done it, I have done it, everyone has done it. If we want to break our rules for something we really want we will and we will justify it later. It is all directly proportional to how badly we want what we are willing to bend our rules for. It goes back to the old joke of a man asking a woman if she would sleep with him for $1 million. She says yes. He then asks her if she will sleep with him for $1. To which she responds offended “what kind of girl do you take me for?”. The man responds “we have established what kind of girl you are, now we’re just negotiating price”.
Everyone has a “price” that they are willing to bend for. Your goal as a man is to drive your value up so high that you become that high value desire that a girl would be willing to bend her rules for. Ignore anyone around you who tells you that this is a strategy that will leave you single. It doesn’t. And even if it did, it’s better than the alternative, which is that the girl now knows what you are willing to do for her. She now knows that you put a higher value on her than you do on yourself. Once that happens, she has you dead to rights. No relationship can ever work on such a start. Dating is a simple system. Interest is expressed, it is either accepted or rejected, and that’s it. Anyone who makes it more complicated than that is not worth your attention.