This site is less a how to, and more me sharing my experience and understanding of having been a Nice Guy ™ and my slow but eventual journey out of it. For a good portion of my life I had nice guy mentality which is often called nice guy syndrome. While syndrome may be a harsh word, it’s very fitting. It’s a deep seeded mindset that is hard to let go, even when all the facts are staring you right in the face. Even when friends and family who you have known for years are telling you one thing, you decide to irrationally believe the other. This is the very essence of a syndrome. Something that is beyond reason. Beyond logic. It can only be conquered by an awakening in oneself.
I will talk about that awakening as well as the past that lead up to it. My hope is that by sharing this understanding there is something that will resonate internally with you the reader. I am not a pick-up artist. I don’t have sex with a new woman every single night. You should know that about me right off the bat. I am offering what I know, and nothing more. If your goal is to become a PUA that is on you. I don’t judge what anyone’s goal is here. I would say that what I have to offer is a good stepping stone to that goal. If on the other hand you just are looking for someone who can put into words what you think you might be feeling, this is the place for you. I will do my best not to lecture, because I can say from experience that lectures on this topic have never worked. If at any point it comes off that way I apologize. I want to try and be more of a guide. I am just writing the best way I know how. I am merely sharing the details as a kindred spirit who has gone through it. With some luck, this will cause the very spark you need in your mind to begin change. It will be hard. It might be even a little painful. I am not saying it’s easy. I am saying it’s worth it. For the rewards that are on the other end. The rewards of self-improvement, self-confidence, maturity, health, and (dare I say it) happiness.
Before I go on I want to mention one important point. This site is from the perspective of my own life, which is as a heterosexual male. This point of view is not about isolating others who do not fit this mold. On the contrary, the principles I will lay out I believe run the gamut and can work for any relationship between two people (or more) of any status or identity. The point of view of my writing is mainly for simplicity and for giving me the best shot at being able to explain my points in the most efficient way possible. I thank you and appreciate your patience and understanding on this position.
If you are still reading up to this point, good. You have taken the hardest step, which is to merely open your mind to another point of view that can help you walk through the door you have always wanted. So let us begin down the path of progress. Are you ready? Good….